“A man without a vision for his future always returns to his past” – Anonymous

When you ask a person what it is they want for themselves in life, it’s surprising how often they proceed to tell you what it is they don’t want. By always focussing on the things you don’t want you are actively ploughing your thoughts, words and actions towards that and hence it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle of history repeating itself.  

In order for any aspect of your life to change you first need to decide what it is you want for yourself. Let’s take your job for example, even if you may not be sure exactly what career you would like to pursue, you can still figure out what sort of things you have enjoyed doing up until now. Perhaps you enjoyed talking and interacting with people, perhaps you enjoyed being creative in some way, or perhaps you enjoy performing. Whatever aspects of your past you felt good doing, focus on these areas and make them important parts of your dream job without being specific as to what that job actually is. By just being clear on the elements of what it is you want to do will, in many ways, be more effective than just focusing on a specific role, as in doing so you keep more doors open leading to many more possibilities for you.

So start thinking about what it is that you really want and begin to focus on that rather than staying stuck in the loop of believing that where you are and what you have is all you can ever get to and all you can ever have. Your life can always change no matter what has happened in your past, your history of life does not have to repeat itself but it will only begin to change if you get clear on what you want for yourself first.